Gone But Not Forgotten: How to cope with Mother's Day without mom

How do those who've lost their mother deal with the holiday?

Kimberly Adams
May 12, 2018 - 3:22 pm
Mother's Day

PHILADELPHIA (KYW Newsradio) -- Mother's Day is the perfect time to show your love for the woman who brought you into the world. But how do you celebrate the holiday when she is gone?

"Everyone is like, 'oh, I made broccoli rabe,'" said Pina Leone, "and I'm, 'yeah, but my mother's is the best.'"

Leone regales her mother's cooking. She passed away two years ago, and for this sales clerk, Mother's Day will be a struggle.

"You see a lot of moms, moms shopping with their moms," Leone said. "I just can't do that anymore."

So how do those who've lost their mother deal with the holiday?

"Allow yourself to be sad and to feel the feelings that you have," said Thea Gallagher, a clinical Psychologist with Penn Medicine.

Gallagher says whether the loss was yesterday or decades ago, there are ways to celebrate mom on Mother's Day.
"Writing a letter to your mom, visiting the grave, being with someone you identify as a mother figure," she said. 

Gallagher says avoid social media. Instead, talk about amusing memories.

"There's a lot of research that shows that nostalgia is actually good for us," she said, "especially if it's not regret."

No regrets here. Happy Mother's Day, Mom!