PHILADELPHIA (KYW Newsradio) -- It's not easy to be merry this time of year if your family is facing health issues or loss. 

If celebrating the holiday the way your mother always did is too painful since she passed away, establish a new tradition, suggests Lara Moretti, manager of family support services at Gift of Life Donor Program in Philadelphia. She says holidays are always stressful and with health issues in the mix, communication is essential.

"I think maybe asking them what kind of traditions they want to celebrate in the moment and just being with them, taking pictures and sharing stories," Moretti said, "and if they're comfortable recording memories, that can be really meaningful for family in years to come."

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If your best friend is grieving, offer to help him enjoy at least a few moments of the holiday.

"If they want to leave the party early, be the one who says I'll take you home," Moretti said. "Don't just say 'call me if you need me,' reach out to them, bring them some food, go over and spend time with them, even it it's just sitting, having coffee. Just spending time with them and being present can really be a lot for someone who is grieving."

And if he needs to cry, let him be sad....it's expected.